The legendary icon Bruce Lee once said ” There is no opponent”. I try to apply this principle in every aspect of my life including fitness. There’ no much comparison in the fitness industry. Who’s more jacked? Who can bench more? Who has better abs? What about, who gives a shit? I admit that I’m sometimes guilty of playing the comparison game. It’s human nature. I never let myself get down if I see someone else doing better than I am in an area that matters to me. I just remember how far I’ve come and that I’m on my own journey.
When you see someone warming up with your one rep max, you have to take into account the work that person did to get there. The hours in the gym. The failed reps. The discipline eating and sleeping routine. They deserve to be where they are. There’s nothing wrong with looking at other people’s success and using that as a model for what you’d like to achieve. I also understand looking at other people’s performance if you’re in a competition like a bodybuilding contest or powerlifting meet.The problem is when you let the success of others hurt your self-esteem. You should be proud of yourself for showing up and trying to better yourself. Maybe that person squatting 450 pounds wishes they were the guy squatting 500 pounds. Maybe the guy with the ripped triceps wishes they had biceps like the other guy.
Everyone is on their own journey. You might as well enjoy it and see where it takes you.When you get into the comparison game, it’s a never ending circle. There will always be someone stronger, leaner, or more jacked than you.Be happy with the progress you’ve made and try to be the best version of yourself. If you really insist on comparing yourself to someone, then compare your current self to your old self. If you like where you are compared to before, then be proud and keep moving forward. If not, then make the effort to change your current shape to a shape you’d at least be proud of.
Good things will come when you focus on your journey, do the work, and have patience!